Yesterday, I went to the doctor to discuss what I called my “geriatric”
concerns with her. She laughed at me and said, “You’re only 43.” Well, that may
be, but everything I wanted to discuss with her was largely a consequence of
aging.
Anyway, the long and short of it of the appointment was
this: 1) Cut down on the caffeine, 2) Opt for low-impact exercise such as
swimming, water aerobics, and yoga, 3) Go to PT, and if that doesn’t work, get
tested for RA (Rheumatoid Arthritis).
While nothing she said was cause for alarm, I did, in any
case, feel as though I had hit a wall. . not hard, mind you, but it was enough
of a jolt to let me know that there is something blocking my path. Let me explain.
Just like 54% of the
U.S. population, I enjoy my coffee in the morning. I must confess that I really
don’t need it to wake up, nor do I get headaches if I have to skip a day. I
just like it because it’s a part of my routine.
Likewise, this habit it a recent acquisition. I didn’t start
to drink coffee until I was 40 years, and it was only because I MADE myself
start drinking it. In considering how “social” of a drink coffee is, I resolved
to learn to drink it, starting on my 40th birthday. For the next
month, I literally choked down one cup per day. Mike laughed at me when my body
would involuntarily shutter as I tossed it back. “Why are you doing this to
yourself?” he asked.
The answer, of course, was because I had decided. I had set
my mind to it, and of course, my pig-headedness won. I am now a coffee drinker.
. .but for how long? She told me to “cut back” and “switch to water instead.”
Now that Diet Coke and I are no longer in a committed relationship, I thought I
was doing pretty good. Guess not.
Then, there is the exercise piece to consider. The doctor
said that swimming “massages the muscles and joints” and is “a total body
workout” as all of your muscles are engaged. Honestly, the doc did a great job
of verbal enticement with her vocabulary choices. However, the fact remains –
with swimming or water aerobics- that 1) I must get wet (which is tough to do
when it is negative 1,000 degrees outside), and 2) I must wear a swim suit. .
.in public. . .where people see me.
I realize that those are just silly objections. The real
issue for me is giving up running. The doc didn’t say I had to, but her message
was pretty clear – that I need to switch to something a little more friendly to
the joints. While I have made it no secret how I feel about running (I HATE
IT), running has been a good motivator to me. I have set little goals for
myself, and so far, I have been able to achieve them. One of my “bucket list”
items was to run some sort of marathon (more realistically, a half). In my mind’s
eye, I see a pencil mark begin at the left side of the page, starting to cross
that item off.
Right about now, I am starting to sound like a drama queen,
but the bottom line is that I DO NOT LIKE TO BE TOLD “NO.” Metaphorically
speaking, I have often fancied myself as a sort of Harry Potter against the
Argus Filches of the world. Whenever I have encountered a road block, my
mentality has always been, “Oh, yeah, well, I’ll show you,” and I have worked
hard (and usually succeeded) in finding a way through or around the road block.
Now, however, I believe I met my Minerva McGonagall in the form of middle age.
According to society’s definition, middle age does not begin
until one turns 53, but who are we kidding? How many people do you know who live
to be 106? The truth is that middle age begins when one starts losing more than
s/he gains. Even so, there is no reason to get one’s undies in a bunch about
it.
Middle age is a mind-set more than anything. We Americans are
very individualistic and independent, and we love labels. We are always
striving, whether publically or privately to be an –er or an –est (thinner,
fastest, kindest, etc). We like to put ourselves in boxes and/or categories. I
am no different. If I allow myself to think that I am washed up because I am
entering a new phase of life called middle age, then I will be washed up. It’s
a mental choice more than a physical one. In its most basic sense, it means
that some previously-established goals are now going to be revised and/or
replaced with new ones. Although it sounds cliché, that is, in fact, life.
We are on Week Three of a sermon series called Following Jesus. . .Discovering God!
Last week’s sermon was called “The Spirit of Obedience.” Essentially, the
pastor has been considering Christ’s final words to his disciples before He left
the Earth (John 14) and how we disciples, in today’s age, have an advantage
over the original disciples.
For followers of Jesus who want to discover God, the process
is very simple and difficult at the same time: obedience. You read His Word,
you talk to Him, you listen to what He says, and you do it. Period. There are
literally no “buts.” There are no excuses. There is no doing it my way when I
want to do it. There is only obedience.
Obedience is a distasteful word to most people as it has
largely negative connotations. It involves giving in. It involves giving up our
individuality (preferences, timeline, goals). However, the pastor re-framed the
word, obedience, for me on Sunday. Rather than give the word reactive
qualities; it described it proactively.
To explain, he asked us to think about when we first fell in
love with our spouses. S/he was all we could think about. Likewise, our actions
toward our spouses were all about pleasing him/her because of our love for
him/her. Sometimes, that meant (and still does mean) that we put aside our own
desires and preferences in order to please our spouses.
The feeling of falling in love with our spouses is what our
relationship with God should look like. We think about Him all the time.
Because we love Him so much, we want to please Him, which means putting aside
our own preferences, desires, and goals to do what He wants.
Obedience is not punishment; it is a way we show love.
Thus, success is to be found in re-thinking the road blocks.
Rather than plow through them, as I have made it my self-imposed mission
throughout life, I need to examine why they are there. If I hit a road block
due to my own negligence, then the road block is a consequence. Even so, the
failure is not finality; it is a hard, yet poignant, lesson – one which I
should take heed in order to avoid it in the future. In any case, if I hit a
road block, it is for a reason; I need to step outside the bubble and consider
why I may have hit the road block.
So while some of my new concerns may feel like a loss, they
are actually gains. I have been an individualistic, independent cuss for far
too long, and it’s time to relinquish some control and see where the road goes
next. “Every element of self-reliance must be slain by the power of God.
Complete weakness and dependence will always be the occasion for the Spirit of
God to manifest His power” (Oswald Chambers).
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